Will a Liar Every Change?
Being
lied to by someone you love and felt you could trust is very painful and
frustrating. You love your partner, so you find yourself forgiving his/her lies
the first time, perhaps the second and third time as well, before you realize
you are just involved with a liar. However, because you feel strongly for this
person, it is not easy for you to break away, even though you know that is
probably what is best for you. You hang on, with hope that things will change
and he will not lie to you anymore. You justify staying with him by telling
yourself that he is a good person and deep down you down you know he loves you
– and that your relationship is wonderful and perfect except when he lies.
What
you need to ask yourself when this happens is: do you consider a wonderful
relationship one in which your partner lies to you? Is being lied to by a liar
your idea of love and respect? When you are emotionally involved with someone,
it is not always easy to ask and answer these logical questions. You often will
make excuses for a liar, just to make yourself feel better about staying with
someone who does not truly respect you. When your partner lies to you, it is
because he does not respect you and is not as committed to the relationship as you
would like to believe. Of course, there are different kinds of lies little ones
and big ones, but a lie is still a lie, no matter the size or reason for the
lie. Look at it like this: if your partner can lie so easily over little things
that are unnecessary to lie about, then you can be pretty sure that he/she will
lie to you about bigger things that will really matter and damage the
relationship.
What
you need to ask yourself when this happens is: do you consider a wonderful
relationship one in which your partner lies to you? Is being lied to by a liar
your idea of love and respect? When you are emotionally involved with someone,
it is not always easy to ask and answer these logical questions. You often will
make excuses for a liar, just to make yourself feel better about staying with
someone who does not truly respect you. When your partner lies to you, it is
because he does not respect you and is not as committed to the relationship as
you would like to believe. Of course, there are different kinds of lies little
ones and big ones, but a lie is still a lie, no matter the size or reason for
the lie. Look at it like this: if your partner can lie so easily over little
things that are unnecessary to lie about, then you can be pretty sure that
he/she will lie to you about bigger things that will really matter and damage
the relationship.
