When
I look back at all the relationships that didn’t work out (that I so wanted to
at the time)m I realize that in every case, there were early warnings signs
that each guy gave me that could have given me some idea of the heartbeark I
was about to experience if I had only been aware of what to look for. To spare
you from of the warnings signs that clearly let you know that this is a guy to
avoid if it’s a real relationship you’re looking for.
He doesn’t call you when he says he’s
going to
Granted,
I know that sometimes life can get it the way, and if he’s working late on that
big project with the looming deadline it’s possible that time might get away
from him once in a while. But if this happens more than once or twice, it’s a
sure sign tha you’re just not a priority for him right now. If a guy is really
interested in starting (or countinuing) a real relationship with you, you will
be on his mind, and he won’t forget to call.
He’s pften late and doesn’t call to let
you know
I
know there are lots of reasons people can run late that are beyond their
control (traffic jam, car problems, being stuck at the office), but a quick
call from his cell phone will put your mind at ease, end let you know that you
have a few more minutes to try on that one other outfit you were sill
considering. The point here is about being respectful of your time – we can
forgive lateness, even chronic lateness (some people just aren’t good at
judging hoe much time something will take), but not calling to let you know
he’ll be a little late? That’s inexcusable and a sure sign that he’s not too
concerned about you.
He has rules about how often he can see
you.
It’s
one thing to having the boys “Wednesday Poker Night”, or something along those
lines, but if he’s only willing to get together say, every other weekend (with
the exception being a child custody situation), then that’s a sure sign he’s
keeping his options open and still scouring the market for something better (at
least in his mind – he just doesn’t realize that you’re the best thing going!).
