Relationship : What Does Love Mean To You?

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        In today’s relationship love is often used to describe how someone feels about another person and as a description of what one is looking. The world is made up all of kinds of relationships and although there are general meanings when it comes to love; there are also radically different ones.

       To say that love means one thing would be an oversight. Just through looking at the different relationships that one has had and that others are having will often show this. So although one can live in a society where there are general ideas about what love is and how love should be, there will also be a personal meaning of what love is.

#The process

This meaning may well be personal thing, but it can also correlate with certain views that have come about through the media and society. There will be some people who does it for them; they will soon know.

However this process rarely goes on conscious. One is unlikely to think this person does this or has that and therefore I’m in love. The whole thing typically goes on out of one’s conscious awareness.

One problem.


If what one unconsciously associates as love is functional and empowering then there is a better chance of one ending up in a healthy relationship. The problem here is that if what one unconsciously associates as being love is disempowering and dysfunctional, this can lead to all kinds of problem.

Because even though one may have an idea about what love is like to them, unless this matches their ego minds associations it is highly unlikely to become a reality. And this will then create conflict and emotional experiences that include; pain, anger, hopelessness and frustration amongst other things.

Love


Ones view of love may be bassed on someone that is respectful, supportive, kind or affectionate for example. And yet this may be the complete opposite of what ones ego mind has come to associate as what love is.

The ego mind forms associations around everything and once these are formed; it is what the mind will come to conclude as being reality and the truth. These associations are formed through familiarity and this then becomes what is safe.

Associations


And when it comes to what the ego mind can associate as what is familiar and therefore safe, there are endless possibilities. While healthy, functional and supporti vebahaviour can be what the ego mind associates as being safe, so can unhealthy, dysfunctional and unsupportive bahaviour for instance.

This is why relationships can be dysfunctional and create so much pain and suffering. Consciously one may feel repelled by the relationships that they are in or to the people that they attract. However, to the ego mind, it is simply due to the associations that it has around these people being familiar and therefore safe.

Reasons

On the surface it can seem very strange as to why the ego mind would associate violence or abuse to mean love. It is clear that there is nothing loving about these two or any of the others that I mentioned above.

And one of the biggest reasons that the mind will associates these unhealthy behavior to mean love is due to what happened in ones early childhood. This doesn’t even have to be something that was extremely abusive; all it needs to be is an environment that included these was in this environment.

Childhood

During ones younger years, one is likely to learn what love is through their caregives. How they responded to ones needs and wants as a child will then go a long way to defining what ones ego mind associates as love. And how one was treated as a child and how ones caregivers treated each other will also have an effect.

Now, for some people this time will be more dysfunctional or abusive than it is for others. However, as we all respond differently to things, it means that it is as uch about how one interprets what happens to them as it is about what actually happens.

And these are experiences that are likely to be experienced numerous times and through their familiarity, the ego mind will associate them as what is safe.

Questioning

At such a young age, one didn’t have the ability to question whether this behavior was functional or healthy. All one could do was become comfortable with behavior and accept it as love.

Awareness


The associations that the ego mind has formed are  not set in stone and can be changed. As this happens one can begin to merge what they truly want, with what is going on at a deeper level.

Therapy, reading, coaching or speaking to a supportive friend can all be useful. This is something that one can only decide for themselves.



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