Knowing
whether you are being lied to our not, does not require mind reading or psychic
power. Understanding the difference between the truth and a lie can all be
determined by a person’s behavior, and if you pay attention to these behaviors,
you will be able have a better idea of whether is to trust your instincts. If
you feel you are not getting the entire truth from your partner for some
reason, then listen to your instincts. Most people are in good touch with their
instincts, but rather not listen to that inner voice because they refuse to
believe that their partner would deceive them in any way. Staying in touch with
your instincts will help guide you in the right direction.
Though
instincts are a great help, they can be tricky. Majority of the times, your
instincts will not lie to you, but there are times when your instincts can be
influenced by your fears and insecurities. For example, you may already have
fears of being cheated on, therefore you may fell that your partner is laying
to you to you and cheating on you, when in fact he or she may be telling you
the trurt and completely faithful to you. This is why it is essential to
understand the behavior of a liar, so that you can define the difference
between really catching on to a liar, or just being paranoid that your partner
is laying to.
Watch the Body Language
One
important thing to remember is that the body never lies. If there are changes
in the way your partner moves (or does not movie) his/her arms, hands, head and
the way his/her eyes shift, then you are most likely being lied to. The reason
the body language changes when a person is lying is because the person now has
to think of a way to seem convincing that he/she is telling the truth. Since
he/she knows that whatever they are telling you is a lie, the behavior
automatically changes because they are now trying to act truthful, instead of
actually being truthful. One big sign to look out for is in the eyes. If your
partner avoids eye contact with you, then he/she is lying to you there is a
fear that you will see through him or her if there is eye contact, so eye
contact will be avoided. Whether you realize it or not, your body also
communicates when you talk. When you are enthusiastic about telling your
partner something and are telling the truth, you will move your hands around and
will look into his/her eyes to make connection. If your partner is lying
however, he or she will tense up, will most likely tone down on the hand
movement and eye connection and will seem different than other times. If your
partners is the type to still move his/her hands around even when he/she is
lying, then pay attention to the timing of the movements. Timing is everything
and define the difference between the truth and a lie. When a person is telling
the truth for example, his/her hands (and whether body movement he/she does)
will move at the same time when telling you something. When he/she is lying however,
the body language will be off and will usually come shortly after he/she has
told you the lie. This is because they have to think about acting natural, and
this thinking causes them to be off key.
Last but not Least: Clearing of the
throat, touching him or herself often and saying “Umm”
Another
sign of a lying partner is if he/she touch his/her nose or face a lot while
talking to you. They will feel nervous about telling you lies and will want to
occupy their hands somehow as a way to cover throat more than usual when
talking to you, look away a lot and/or say “umm” a lot when lying to you. They
are using these as time killers so they can think of how to tell you the lie in
the most convincing way possible. There are just some of the sign of a lying
partner and are the most common signs. Remember, it is always important to
trust your instincts first. If you feel that your partner is lying to you, start
paying closer attention to his/her behavior and if there are any changes, then
you will be able to catch on to the lies better and can further investigate
from that point. Receive Love Advice and Professional Help.
