Being in love with someone who can never be yours
Being
in love with someone who can never be yours is a painful state to be in. If you
truly that there is no chance that your beloved will leave his/her partner for
you, it is best to move on. Try to have life with varied interests. Pick up a
new hobby or learn a new language. Join a course in which you were always
interested but never had time for. If you did not have a job earlier, look for
one now. Once you fill your life with things todo and learn, you will be too
busy to obsess about someone who you could not have. Also while it may seem
difficult at first make a definite attempt to get back to the social circuit.
Go out with friends and co-workers.
Attend parties and celebrations but try to be
part of a larger group. Give yourdelf time to put pain behind before you rejoin
the dating scene. Keep yourself open to making friends and meeting interesting
people but at the same time don’t rush to a rebound relationship. Even after
your best efforts if you find that you cannot get over the person, then take
the help of a counselor. It is much easier for a professional therapist to come
up with effective solutions which will help you to cope with your feelings of
rejection and get on with your life.
Consider possibilities
Hower
under certain circumstances you may be justified in being hopeful even if your
beloved is in another relationship at present. It could be that he/she finds in
you a moral and emotional companion that they cannot find in their primary
partners. More significantly your beloved might be in a genuinely unhappy
relationship and it is only a matter of
time before he/she opts out. Once your married partner is able to regain
control over his/her life and make his/her own choices, you may see your
patience rewarded and your love returned.
Yet
another scenario when it may be alright to entertain hopes of a committed man
or woman is when they are going through the process of a divorce. Your beloved
may have filed for divorce after being in a bad marriage for quite a while. And
since filing for devorce is not the same thing as being finally divorced, it
means that until the process is though, your partner and his/her spose are
still married for all legal purposes. So until the time your partner’s divorce
comes through, it may be OK for you to consider dating him/her. At the same
time though ascertain for sure that this is also something that the other
person wants. He/she may be too emotionslly traumatized to jump into another
relationship right away or be untrusting of potential partners.
Finally
consider the fact that you can still love someone without being in a romatic
relationship with him/her. The most beautiful aspects of love like affection,
trust and mutually enjoyment in each other’s company can all be possible
without romace or sex. So intead of wringing your hands over the impossibility
of a ‘relationship’ with the person why not instead take pleasure in the
harmonious equation you share with that person?
