Showing our love toward those who deserve it is an art. When you know it’s real, or maybe pure anough to be shown, you have to how to show it.
Be yourself.
Don’t play roles and don’t try act like
the cliché lovers you’ve seen in movies or shows. Play your own music when it
comes to showing love. Use the next tips to write a piece of your own music.
Let
your love shine through your actions and behaviors. Don’t rely on words to show your love especially when they’re not
supported by prior behaviors. Are you claming that you love him/her? Anyone
could do that. If the feeling’s there, it must have turnedinto actions. The
actions are the foundations you need to base your claim on. So the better path
would be to go from actionsto words. When there’s a need for word to be heard,
speak from your heart.
Use
the circumstances coming up to show your love. When you do it during a normal talk or in normal situations, it won’t
impress him/her. It will be sort of cliché. So use the situations that come up.
When you choose circumstances to show your love, it’s like you pick a tool for
doing it and belive me : it’s a good tool.
When
you do use words, remember what you’ve said and in fact claimed. Your actions are going to prove or disprove
it and he/she is waiting to see whether you keep your word or not.
Try
to be unpredictable. Listen actively to
learn the small/big things he/she cares about and then surprise him/her by
doing something about it at the most unexpected time.
Show
your love to others by showing your love for what they really like or to what
interests them. This is another
impressive tool. Learn how to use it.
Remember
that some people recognize or show love in different ways. For example, some people may show their love by kissing and touching,
while another person may show love by doing things or just having quality time
with the one they love. Fine-tune your music to match your beloved one’s needs
and expectations.
Think
and act spontaneously, Do be prepared (like you’re reading this), but don’t
exactly pre-plan anything.
Golden
Rule for Special Moments : When you’ve
built enough credit about your feelings towards him/her, make a small
unexpected comment or sentence about your previously-undisclosed feelings at a
very special moment, especially with a tone showing you’re not waiting for a
response (e.g. Without looking into her eyes). An example of this is
illustrated here : you do something for her/him, she/he is amazed and
appreciates it, you seize the opportunity and tell her of your very honorable
belief about her/him. This can be so emotionally penetrative. Such an
opportunity only happens once in your relationship. You’ll it very special
moment when it comes up. So Don’t use this rule in ordinary situations and fore
you’ve built enough credit with your partner.
Tips
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A very important skill to show love is
“listening”. When you listen, you pick up things that the person you love tells
you, such as their likes, their dreams, etc. You can later use this iformation
to surprise them with something special that you can do for them. The ideas can
be tailored to your or your recipient’s personality(ies).
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You’ll
have to think about your own versions of showing love or you’ll fall into the
trap of copying existing clichés. The more customized and personal you make it,
the more real and effective it becomes.
Warnings
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Don’t
use one sentence or phrase too many times. Don’t use them mechanically. Words
lose impact with repletion.
