Although many people
use this powerful phrase loosely, there are times when you want to say “I Love
you” in a meaningful way and not sound awkward or mawkish. Whether you’re
professing your love to a romantic partner or expressing it to a relative or
friend, here are some tips to help you.
Define love. The sincerity of the phrase is strengthened
by knowing what love is, and what loving someone means to you. Determine the
difference between love, infatuation and lust, and make sure it’s genuine love
that you feel for this person.
Feel it. There will come a
point when you know what you feel for your boyfriend or girlfriend had moved
from friendship, to like, through infatuation, and into romantic love. When
you’re sure you’ve crossed that threshold, that’s the time to express your
feelings. If you say it because you think you should, or because it’s
expected—and you’re not there yet—it will come across as insincere.
Make eye
contact. Making eye
contact not only shows sincerity and communicates trust, it’s a delight to look
into your partner’s eyes when you first say “I Love You” It will be a moment
you will both always remember. Even though there are probably a few inches
between youe faces, it should feel like there is nothing between yourselves,
not even air.
Holding
hands as you tell them you love them can also communicate sincerity and trust.
Say it an appropriate time. Time the
statement in a way that will make both you and the recipient most comfortable.
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If you’re in a private place and there’s not much background
noise, keep your volume low ; don’t whisper unless you bring your lips to his
or her ear, which can also be a very intimate way to express your love.
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If you want to tell your partner how you feel when you’re in a public place, it’s up to you
whether you want to pull the person aside, or say it in front of friends or
even strangers. It depends on your loved one’s personality, and your own
personality. Some will find it terrible romantic to be told they’re loved
across a room full of people ; others may find it mortifying.
Say it without expecting anything in return.It is nerve-wracking to tell someone that you love them if you’re going
to wait anxiously for their response. If you truly feel it, then say it with no
expectations of a response. Your intention can be to tell the person how you
feel, with the hope of making them happy and showing them that they are valued.
So say what you feel, and if they love you, too, they’ll let you know in their
own way and in their own time.
Be creative. Say “ I Love
You “ in another language. Write it into a poem or even a haiku. If you want to be romantic,
SPELL IT OUT WITH ROSE PETALS ON THE BEDROOM FLOOR. Write it in code, like a Vigenere
cipher. Say it in little ways, like post-it notes in
unexpected places, and express it in every way you can.
Back up your words. Don’t
just say it, show them that you really do love them. Saying “ I Love you “
without showing it is, in a way, a lie. Express your love in
action as well as in words.
Tell your family. Sometimes, it gets
taken for granted that we love our perents, or our siblings, and though they’re
really important to us, we simply don’t’t use “those words” in normal
conversation. If that’s how you were raised, get over it! Whether or not your
family is comfortable expressing their love for each other, be the ice breaker
and tell them.
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You
can tell them during an event-a wedding dinner, Thanksgiving, or just a family
dinner. Raise a glass and say something like “You’re my family, and I Love You
all.”
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You
can tell them in private, in an anguarded moment, For example, surfing the web
for the latest Lolcat hilarity, give your Dd a hug and tell him you love him.
It doesn’t have to be all gooey and sentimenetal—just a statement of fact.
Say “I Love you,
man.”. Sure,
it’s a goofy beer commercial tagline, but the idea is right. For some, saying
this is a cultural taboo that is hard to overcome—especially for guys. But the
fact is, good friends are like the family we choose, and every now and then,
it’s a good thing to tell the people that matter to you that you love them.
This is true whether they’re the same sex or not. Just keep in mid that is not
about romance and sex, this is about friendship.
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For
example, he’s been your best
friend since high school. He was there when that boy broke your heart, you were
there for him when she went off to college in another country and ended the
relationship. You’ve talked about going beyond friendship, but decided that’s
not how you felt about each other. You’ve celebrated milestones together, and even
though you live in separate states, you keep in touch regulary. Next time you
see him, if you haven’t already, say something like “Danny, you’re such a great
friend. I totally love you!” Chances
are, Danny feels the same way.
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Another
example is “the buds” Both of you guys were on the team together, and have
always had a friendly rivalry. You’ve been there for each other through thick
and him. He’s your best bud, and you love him like a brother. After celebrating
an event, or when thanking him for something he’s done, Just say it casually :
“ILove you, bro.” Then punch him in the arm if you feel too awkward!
*** that s all about saying “ai love yu”
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