As relationships increasing become fragile and short-lived in today’s world, many sigles are left wondering if they will ever find a true partner – one who is not simple a friend-with-benefits or a generous provider but a soul-mate, something who is the answer to all your dreams. So if you are tired of weaving in the out of relationships and want the real thing, here is an exhaustive list of the ways you could find the love of your life.
The love of your life
In
order to find the love of your life, first you need to be able to recognize
him/her if you come across the person. Think about what makes you happy and
what makes you feel sad. Ponder on your past and see how they have shaped the
person you are today. Also ask yourself what your dreams and aspirations for
the future are Once you are able to understand the desires and the motivations
of your deepest self, you will have a fair idea of the person who can best
respond to them and help you fulfill them – in essence the love of your life.
Adopt the active
approach
This
may not seem the easiest way to begin your search for the love of your life,
especially if you are one of those who are different by nature but is one of
the few stratrgies best-placed to incur immediate results. By simply
introducing yourself to people or reaching out to others, you will be able to
take the initiative in meeting potential partners instead of relying on fate or
the other person’s level of interest in you. So whenever you happen to meet an
attractive individual at work, while socializing or even while simply waiting
for your latte to arrive at a coffe-shop, begin with a simple ‘hi’ and let
him/her know who you are.
Be willing to take
risks
The
reason many people shy away from this active approach is because it involves
laying yourself open to the possibility of rejection. However if you continue
avoid taking risks or you will be passing up on significant chances of meeting
you soul-mate. You may feel awkward about approaching a girl in the coffe shop
who is reading Nietzsche but if you belive that the book indicates a mutual
interest in philosophy and the understanding of life, why not go ahead and take
the chances? It might lead to a meaningful relationship or you may find out
that the girl is merely leafing through the book to complete a course
assignment. Also understand that when you ask someone out, you will get
turneddown occasionally. But don’t let this dampen your search since a few
refusals are nothing when compared to the immense satisfaction of finding the
love of your life.
Involve others
Sometimes
one misses out on a valuable opportunity to meet the right person simply
because others don’t know that you are looking. This usually happens in the
immediate aftermath of a breakup, divorce or loss of a spouse when people
naturally assume that you are out of the dating loop by choice. At such times
you need to spread the word around that you are ready for love again. In fact
close friends and family members can turn out to highly useful resources in
your search for a life partner. Firstly this is because they know you well and
so they are aware of the values that are
important to you and aspirations you have for future which are some of the
basic ideas you are likely to be sharing with a soul matr. Equally importantly
meeting someone through a mutual friend ensures a degree of comfort and ease
when interacing with a potential partner as compared to picking up strangers at
a bar or the nightclub. So let everyone know you are sigle and ready to date
again. And who knows the person your best friend of cousin sets you up with may
actually turn out to be the love of your life.
Network more often
It
is xtrmely unlikely that the love of your life will turn up at your doorstep,
delivering mail or selling cookies for a Church benefit. The only way you can
raise the numerical odds the love of your life is to meet as many potential
partners as you can which in turn means that you should attend parties,
get-togethers and family occasions – as many of them as you are invited to.
This is because get-togethers are not only places where people come with the
ostensible purpose of socializing, but also because unlike your nights-out with
your regular gang, these events are bound to introduce variety in your social
cirle, thus increasing significantly your chances of meeting someone you
wouldn’t have met had you continued to stick to your group. Better stil, throw
your own party and invite a mix of old-timers and fresh blood. This way you can
experience both the thrill of metting new people as well as the satisfaction
that comes from knowing that you can always fall back on a few familiar faces
to make the event a success. More importantly however as a host your prensence
is sure to register more strongly in the minds of your new guests than if you
had been just one of the many faces at someone else’s party.
Don’t pass up on
family events
Family
celebrations like weddings, birthdays and anniversaries used to be one of the
most popular ways of meeting a potential partner in the days gone by. It still
is, despite all the quirkeness and latent tensions that family members can give
rise too. Family function usually ensure that the guests present share – to
some extent – spiritual values and community identity which are often important
requisites for a true soul matr. At the same time you can always hope that your
Manhattan
cousin will with her guests who have absolutely nothing in common with your
family and thus a delight to meet.
Be realistic
While
looking for the love of your life, it is necessary to keep your expectations at
a realistic level. Ask yourself if it is possible for two people to have
completely identical likes and dislikes. Or if two separate individuals can
ever have exactly the same hopes and dreams for future. Indeed what assurance
is there that this perfect partner exists or even if there is such a human
being, that you will come across him/her while you are both sigle? So don’t
cling to the fantasy of the “love of your life” in a way that you end up
avoiding the reality of human imperfection and change besides the fact that
love has to be worked at and not merely experienced as a serendipitous gift.
Decide on what qualities are most essential to you to feel loved, respected and
fulfilled and then look for a person who possesses most of them. And finally
remember that while the contents may be there the packaging might not be what
you had expected.
