Now people are finding love everywhere. Relationships forming over the Internet, in chat rooms, via emails, and even through online gaming are not uncommon anymore.
But the reality with online love is that you're no closer together than what your new found relationship might suggest. And if you're pining after someone whom you'll never meet, let alone ever express your feelings fully (or at all), sometimes you need to accept that things are just not going to work out and that it's time to move on. However, it's difficult to just stop loving someone, no matter how you fell in love. Here are a few pointers on how to end a long-distance relationship with someone you'll never meet and how to move on with your life.
Steps
~Examine whether you really love this
person. Internet relationships can often be a surrogate for a real life
lack of love or certainty in your existing relationships, and may in fact only
be infatuation. If you have fallen into a habit of thinking that no one will be
attracted to you or that no one in your town or city is available, an Internet
relationship can be an easy
substitute for dealing with personal issues; online love interests are low-maintenance, sometimes glorified by omitting to reveal the real self, and can be fairly safe with respect to avoiding being heartbroken (some online relationships can carry on for years and years without facing the realities). Indeed, online love can often assume a large role in meeting
your need for feeling accepted, especially if you're unhappy, feeling alone or alienated, or hoping for better things beyond where you are now. As a result, it's important to test your feelings thoroughly to find out whether you really love this person or you're just afraid you won't find love elsewhere in your life and are using this online love relationship to fill a gap in your life. Some things to ask yourself:
substitute for dealing with personal issues; online love interests are low-maintenance, sometimes glorified by omitting to reveal the real self, and can be fairly safe with respect to avoiding being heartbroken (some online relationships can carry on for years and years without facing the realities). Indeed, online love can often assume a large role in meeting
your need for feeling accepted, especially if you're unhappy, feeling alone or alienated, or hoping for better things beyond where you are now. As a result, it's important to test your feelings thoroughly to find out whether you really love this person or you're just afraid you won't find love elsewhere in your life and are using this online love relationship to fill a gap in your life. Some things to ask yourself:
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Do I prefer online time over real life time? This can be a dead giveaway
as to how you feel about your life in general.
*Do I feel that this person is the only person who is genuine and real in
my life, despite there being people around me in my real life that I could be
interacting with more?
* Does this feel thrilling because it's secret,
it's easy to control (switching off the computer screen is easier than
switching off from a person in front of you), and I can share really deep
thoughts with this person that I cannot do in real life? The thrill and seeming
depth of an online relationship can cause you to elevate it above real life
relationships.
~Analyze whether you're actually
ever going to meet the online person you feel you love. Although internet and long-distance relationships may seem
impossible at first, even to the people in the relationship themselves, this
alone cannot stop people from meeting. Internet relationships being unfeasible
is a thing of the past and some people do connect successfully in real life
after having an online relationship. In other words, if you have reasons
stacked up against the two of you ever meeting, then one or both of you is
probably not taking it seriously enough to ever follow it through to the
natural consequence of meeting. Things to examine that could impact whether you
ever meet or not include:
- Location - If you are in the same country, there is still a high chance it will work out, barring other circumstances. However, if you are on opposite ends of the world, then your chances will probably be very low of ever seeing this person. And if you are in the same country but haven't yet made arrangements to meet up, perhaps it's never going to happen.
- Income and means - If you both have a low income or still live at home with relatives or cannot leave your job, then this can all impact negatively on your chances of ever meeting and forming a life together.
- False emotions - Again, relationships such as these can confuse the lines of infatuation and love all too easily. If someone truly loves you, they will make the effort to find and meet you, but all too often the people involved do not actually feel this strongly for each other. Do not kid yourself any longer.
- Emotional affair - this is an unfortunate situation to be in, when one or both of you are married or in a dating relationship but you're carrying on an online "emotional affair". Even if you're never found out, this is a damaging relationship for both of you and will often not result in meeting up but can cause harm all the same through being disloyal to real life partners and preventing you from mending the things that aren't right in your real life relationship.
- Continue To Being in Love With Some One You'll Never Meet ,Part#2
