Okay,
so you date people hoping that one of these days you will come across the right
person, the one you will make the greatest romantic connection with. But does
it feel like you are going nowhere and believe that you just have no luck with
meeting the right people? Feel like you are lost and doomed in this whole
dating business? Stop feeling sorry for yourself!
The
reality of this situation is that luck has nothing to do with it. If you are
like many people, you are probably dating blindfolded, without even realizing
that you are doing so. If you feel unsuccessful and dissatisfied with you
dating patterns, then it is time for you to take a few steps back to see where
things went wrong for you. Think you have been doing everything right? Again!
If you look back, you will be surprised to learn that you got so caught up in
just the whole dating experience, that you forgot what to look out for and neglected
your true needs and desires. What are you really looking for in a lover? What
are your needs and desires? What qualities are important for a person to have
and what other qualities are you willing to compromise with and accept?
If
you spend your time trying to spare people hurt or disappointment, then you
have been doing it all wrong. This does not mean that you have to be harsh and
rude, but it does mean that you have to make finding the right person a first
person a first and high priority for, not worrying about what other people with
think of you.
Which
moves us to the next essential point in dating. While it is normal that you fix
yourself up to make a great impression on your date, it is not the most
important thing that you should focus on. In fact, so many dating out there
worry so much about what their date will think, that they totally forgot the
purpose of the date – to find out whether or not they will find the connection
they are seeking. No matter how you fix yourself and what manners or
personality you put on, you will never be in control of what your date will
think or feel about the date, so set that unnecessary stress aside. Instead,
shift your focus about what you will think about him or her. Observe everything
about them. Do YOU like their appearance? Does their personality appeal to YOU?
Do YOU feel that you are making a good connection? As you can see, it is what
you think that is important here, because you are the on looking for the right
person, as well as certain qualities. Leave what they think, up to them!
As
long as you get real with yourself, stop making excuses, know what your really
want, stick to it and make it clear to the people that you date, then you will
be safe from too many mixed messages, misunderstandings and frustrations. When
you treat your goal of meeting the right person seriously and important, then
you will stay motivated to find him or her, and when you do – you will finally
be able to begin the kind of relationship that you have always longed for,
needed and deserve.
