Communication
is something we all know is necessary to keep any relationship strong and
loving, and although we are aware of the importance of communication, we still
seem to be clueless about what exactly good communication really is. This does
not mean you are clueless as a person, but it does mean that more attention is
required on your part, so that you can become more open and invite the many forms
of communication that exist, so that you will be able to understand yourself
and your partner much better. There is nothing that keeps a relationship
healthy, better than understanding and once you start becoming more familiar
with you communication styles, as well as your partners, you will be able to
work better as a team in making the best of your relationship.
The
first step in achieving better communication that will really work, is to take
a look at you first. People always tend to turn to their partner first when
things are not running so smoothly in their relationship. They automatically
start pointing out what their partner is doing, as well as how their partner is
doing or not doing, as well as how their partner is not listening to them. This
may all be true depending on your particular situation, but it is important
that you take the responsibility in reviewing your own actions and
communication first, before you can point anything out in your partner.
Remember, it is very easy to see other people’s mistakes, but when it comes to
looking at you, it is much harder to accept criticism, even from yourself –
because no one wants to be wrong. This is where you need to get real about
things. Communication is not about who is right or wrong, but instead about
helping each other see things from each other’s perspective, so that you be on
the page and avoid any misunderstanding that will cause unneeded arguments.
Communication
is not so complicated, once you understand what the right way communicating is,
and of course – what methods of communication works for you and your
communication best. Effective communication cannot happen on it’s own or with
the efforts of only one person. Both you and your partner have to be open and
willing to work as a team on improving the way you communicate, so that you
both can enhance your relationship skills and build a relationship where you
both will have an understanding of who you are as individuals and what you both
need and want. Just remember to stay real with yourself and avoid painting a
foggy and falsified picture – so that you will never be caught off guard with
nay – painful surprises or stressful misunderstandings.
