A bond
(relationship wise) is when two people have a connection. Being attracted to
each other and sharing common values and interests brought the two of you
together as a couple, but bond has not been set completely. Besided the fact
that you have love and care between you, you also need to see whether or not
the two of you are friends. Is it possible to be friends? Absolutely! As a
matter of fact, it is a must if the two of you are going to build a lasting
bond.
Having a
strong longing and passion for another is important, but is not enough fuel to
keep the bond running. With friendship, your relationship will remain having
that strength under all kinds of circumstances. There will be times, for
example, when you as a couple are not living in your most passionate times.
This is natural and does not mean there is no longer love or desire. As your
relationship deepens, you will go through many experiences and stages that may
put your romance and frequent hot sex aside for a while. This is where friendship
comes in and why it is so important. You should be there for each other and
understand your partner’s situations and concerns. Just take a look at your
friends. See what makes your friendship with them so great. You then need to
see if you partner has those same similarities or exact (sticking up for you
when you need the back up for instance) qualities. Another point to keep in
mind is keeping yourself aware of what behavior you would not except from a
friend. You should definitely not accept those behaviors from your mate (like
standing you up all the time) either.
It is not
easy to put our friends and lovers in the same comparison because we are in
love with our partners, and therefore will more patient with them than we would
with our friends. You can easily blind yourself due to the love you feel for
that person and not even realize when he or she not being a good friend and
partner to you. How can you tell? A true friendship is basically the same as
the true qualities that define real love. The difference is, we are in love and
have a deep desire for our mates, with commitment and a goal of building a
future, and perhaps even getting married and making a family together. The list
below will help you see if your lover is a friend to you as well.
You
can talk and confide in each other about anything.
Your
partner is there for you when you need to talk to someone.
Being
able to always rely on each other when one is counted on.
Having
a permanent shoulder to cry on when we need it
Having
many things in common
Do not
feel guilty for having higher expectations from your love either. People often
feel like they should be more lenient and understanding when it comes to their
lovers. Even though it is important to keep an understanding attitude ( to
avoid misunderstandings and arguments), you should never let things always
slide or make up excuses for your partner’s wrong doings. You should expect
better and not except such behavior. You deserve better. After all, you invest
most of your emotions and time into your partner, so always remember that you
are entitled to receive the same.
