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Steps
Making yourself stop loving someone is very hard, but it is possible.
Steps
1.Don't email, IM, phone, or even say hi; it will open wounds that you are trying to close. Don't answer calls from them either.
2. Tell him/her that it's
over just to be sure so he/she doesn't still ponder on the idea and make a
stupid decision to try to undo everything you've done. If he/she broke up
with you, then leave it. Give them the time they need for themselves and maybe
you can be platonic friends in the future. Usually relationships happen for a
reason.
3. Realize that you two weren't meant for each other, so
the sooner you give him/her up, the sooner you can find the guy/girl who is.
4. Don't close the book, just turn the page; you have
many potential soul mates and reminiscing about the past only means you're not
happy with your own life, not because you are without a partner.
5. Get rid of all memories of him/her no matter how hard
it seems. This will help so much.
6. Stop mentioning his or her name!
7. Know you can do it. Once you've started, just
keep on going.
8. Keep away from all the stuff that will remind you of
your ex like stuffed toys, pillows, accessories, pictures, cards, letters, etc.
9. Organize as many things as possible in your social
diary. The more you have to occupy you, the less time you'll have to dwell
on the past.
10. Never go anywhere with the person anymore and try to
get a new girlfriend/boyfriend.
11. If you still feel upset about the past relationship,
try talking to someone like a friend or a counselor to help along the process
of getting over them
12. If you do decide to be friends after a while, don't
hang out one on one, avoid deep conversations or places that held significant
meaning for the two of you such as the location of your first kiss.
13.Play games or do things that get your mind off of
that person, it might help
Tips
- Don't go on the rebound and get with the first person you find. You won't be happy and you'll be comparing your new partner to your last because you didn't have enough time to get over them and start afresh.
- Make a list of all the things you've always wanted to do and do them. You don't need a man/woman in your life to make you happy and some time with yourself will help you to appreciate yourself.
- Try and remember what they done to hurt you and then you use that hurt to build up the confidence to move on
- Move on. Add some new things to your life, let some of the old things drop.
- Ask yourself why you want them. Is it because you're lonely and want someone, anyone to keep you company and to have fun with? You don't need a man/woman to do that, a platonic friend is all you need.
- Find a friend to gush everything out to. Or if he/she is into talking things out then just let everything out, even the littlest things can make a difference. Sometimes it can take a while for everything to make its way out but afterwards both of you will feel a lot better. Usually it can take about four days per month together. Just make sure you don't get annoying, if you do, it's a good idea to find a journal to write your feelings in.
- Unsubscribe from their Facebook updates, if not unfriend them.
- Get your friends in on helping you.
- Be happy with being single!
- Play something like Winterbells or Bubble Shooter, as they're both very mind numbing games and they won't let you think about him/her
- Read a book.
- Think of someone else you used to fancy and remember the fun times you had together.
- Think of something else like watch loads of films or read books to take your mind away from it.
- Consult a good friend and let yourself cry.
- Music, plenty of Music!
- Even though it's hard to let go of a lost love, you have to let go. The hauntings of the past will never allow you a future.
- If you remember anything about them, try to remember the bad things, this will help you knowing that you made the right decision.
Warnings
- You will cry.
- It's not as easy as a few tips on a website to get over someone especially if it was real love but, if you can appreciate being alone, you'll find a real long-term partner when you're not looking.
- You may want him or her back but don't give in! It will erase all of the progress you have made.
- Sometimes being friends with them might not help either. If you need to...just try and drift away. It may be best for the both of you.
- Don't try to find out information from friends of your ex about what he/she is up to or whether he/she has a new partner, etc. It will make you look desperate and it will more than likely be reported back to your ex.
- Even if your ex wants to be friends, it's really hard for most people who are really in love because it will bring up all those old memories of being together. The easier way is to cut all ties if possible.
- Don't be too egotistical. Accept their apologies but remember the pain that it caused. It will keep you in a better position to think over the situation.
- You will want to go and talk about them or make them look like a bad person. Don't.
