How to React If Your
Ex Boyfriend Asks You Out Again
If an ex-boyfriend
asks you out agaian it can put you in an unexpected position. You may have
thought it was over and been very happy about that, or maybe you even missed
him too. The main thing to remember is that no matter how you feel or felt
about him it still took a lot for him to ask you out again.
So try not to be too
hard if the answer is no, or if you do not know then follow your instinct.
Step
Tell
him how you feel if you don’t want to go out with him again. Make sure you are somewhere quiet wherer
people won’t overthear and make both of you nervous or embarrassed.
Explain
that you broke up the first time for a reason. The problems you both had in the relationship haven’t gone away. You
are still you and he is still… well… him. Maybe you two just don’t work
together as a couple.
Tell
him that it’s not a bad thing that you don’t work together but by dating again
you might just make any problems between the two of you worse by going over old
ground again and eventually just hurting each other.
Ask
him see the sene in what you’re saying and give up asking, thus saving you the
embarrassment of him asking you again, and him the embarrassment of you saying
no again. LL OVER AGAIN.
Accept
the offer if you do want to go out with him again. He’ll be pleased, but remember why it didn’t work rirst time round and
remind him. If it was something you two can fix you should both resolve to fix
it, to work on the relationship to stop the same thing breaking you up again.
You both may want to take things slowly until you can get over what broke you
first time round.
Tips
- If it’s no, be gentle. Expain that it really isn’t him, it’s what happened before and that you don’t want either of you to have to go through that again.
- If it’s yes, take things slowly. Don’t expect to jump straight back to the place you were before you broke up there may be trust issues.
- If it’s yes, make sure he knows where yo’re coming from immediately, especially if you are truly giving your relationship another chance. It’s imortnan to be very clear, as it may be a case where he assumes that he knowshow you feel, especially when it comes to him. Honesty is the key to any great relationship.
- By saying no, this does not stop you from being friend.
- If he broke up with you and you were devasted, and you are realizing that it is likely that the same exact thing will happen again, go read how to get over a break up. That may actually be the most helpful thing you can do if you’re tempted to get back into an unhealthy situation.
Warnings
- Just because both of you still have feelings for each other it doesn’t always mean it’ll work. Go for it if you feel it’s right for you, but if you do, don’t just expect results. Be prepared to work on things or it will crash and burn once more.
- Sometimes once isn’t enough but don’t get personal. Kepp reminding him why it didn’t work the first time. Male ego won’t let him get knocked back too often.
- If you decide to go again, be prepared for the same thing to break you up again.
- If he broke your heart, he’s jerk and you don’t need him. You are too good for him ! – unless there’s the chance he thought you were going to break up with him.
- Do not let him get the best of you. Remember when you guys were broken up, and what he put through. That in the long run you can be without him and because of him you became a lost stronger as a person. If he was a good friend after your breakup, then he’s probably a really good guy.
- Remember, if he broke up with you and you spent days crying about it, think about the way you felt, and then realize it might happen again, even if you like him.
