There
are times when a relationship reaches a point where one or both partners feel
the need for some space and want a break from each other, believing that a
break will do the relationship good. Can taking time apart from each other help
your relationship or is taking a break a way to avoid certain issues that will
still be there waiting for you when you get back together?
First Tip: Do not use Breaks as a quick
fix.
Every
relationship varies and it is important that every couple understands that taking
time apart is not a substitute for fixing or solving problems, because if you
part when you are having problems, they will be waiting for you when you meet
again – so it is essential that you talk about your issues first before you
decide a break is needed and best for the relationship. Many get scared and
paranoid when their partner asks for some time alone because they fear that
their partner may not love them anymore or will not come back. Though it is
always possible for your partner to change their mind during the break and
decide not to continue with the relationship, there is no need to fear taking
the break, because the two of you would eventually have broken up anyway, if
your partner was already thinking of doing so before – so it is inevitable.
A Break can help you re – discover you
individual self.
Many
time, one or both people in a relationship will lose themselves in some way or
form and will begin to feel stress and resentment in the relationship, even
though it may not be about their partner personally. In every relationship,
couples will compromise their differences to keep things healthy and happy and
in making these compromising and changes, you both have to let go of a part of
your differences. Sometimes this happens so often, that one or both of you will
fell like you have completely lost yourselves and will feel stressed and
resentment towards each other, even though it has nothing to do with any of you
in particular. Relationships can get so deep – and you both can connect as “one”
so intensely that you neglect yourselves as individuals, and in order to
re-discover yourself, there will need to be some apart from each other. Remember, you need to be whole as an
individual first in order to be whole together as a couple, and time apart is
best if one or both of you feel like you need to get back in touch with your
individuality.
Slow down the Pace to learn more about
each other.
Some
couples get so excited when they enter a relationship, that everything moves so
fast, which can get stressful, pressuring and scary, in which a break is then a
good idea as well. Taking time apart can help a relationship build a better
bond because you will both replenish yourselves during the break and will then
be able to give the relationship the efforts and attention needed to keep it
healthy. If you are afraid that you will lose the relationship if you take a
break, just remember that you would have broken up later anyway – not because
of the break, but because you grew apart, had irreparable issues or maybe your
partner (or you) just wanted to move on. So do not fear what is not in your control. Just stay
calm and see what good a break can do for both of you and your relationship. Besides,
you both owe it to yourselves to get back in touch with your individualities
and learn more new things about yourself, so that you will be able to teach
your partner more about you – and the more you know about each other, the more
you will understand your differences and will be able to build the connection
that works best for the both of you.
