First off, it is important to ask yourself what you
consider a real relationship to be. You need to understand what your needs and
desires are from another person, and what you are willing to give them. This
way, you can see early in your first dates, if you wish to continue and work
towards a future together, and if the other person feels the same of course
(both sides count).
Once you have decided to have an official
relationship, you both need to remember what brought the two of you together in
the first place. For instance, what attracted you to each other both physically
and emotionally? What do you admire about his her personality> this will
help not taking the other for granted, which can often happen after two people
have been together for a long time. This does not mean the love is fading, but
it does mean that there is lack of effort. People tend to get lazy after a
while, because they feel comfortable and safe. This problem can be solved when
both people are willing to make the time and effort. Read also our Love
pollution article.
Honesty is also at the of everyone’s list when it
comes to what people want our of a relationship. A person needs to know that
they can trust their mate because it builds a zone of safety and
comfortableness around them. They need to know that they can at least rely on
their loving partner to tell them the truth, no matter what. Being human means
NOT being perfect, which means we will make mistakes. Now, we should not let
that fact lead us to making mistake we already know are wrong ahead of time. If
your partner deliberately makes mistakes or you knowingly make mistakes, it
shows that you or your partner lacks respect and care for the other. This is
unhealthy for the relationship. What is healthy however, is realizing that the
mistake you committed is a mistake. You or your partner need to know that what
they did was wrong and they need to feel the sympathy for what they did. Once
you or partner have realized this, you can then figure out a way of how you
will confess your wrong doings to the other.
