Day
by day, the majority of us have a painful war with ourselves. It is a constant
fight that includes constant criticism, pressure, anger, sadness and endless
cruel comparisons. It is an everyday struggle that gets in the way and keeps
you from seeing yourself for who you really are and achieving your true
purposes in life. Where did this war begin and why?
The
answer to that question can be answered in a well – known and very often used
word : Self – Esteem. What exactly does self – esteem mean? Self – Esteem is the way you look at and feel about
yourself. The word “esteem” itself, means to value something or someone,
thinking and believing that than something or someone is of great importance.
If you are always fighting with yourself and feeding yourself thoughts that
make you feel less valuable or not as important or attractive as other people,
then you are suffering from Low Self – Esteem. Unfortunately, most people
suffer from this, but the good news is, you can kick low self – esteem out of
your life, inviting and living a high self – esteem instead.
Living
a life of great confidence can be challenging, but can be done. You might have
even tried giving your self – esteem a boost, but were later disappointed to
see that it did not quite work out the way you imagined. If this is true, do
not run away just yet! This behavior is very common. Like every other person,
you have probably adapted and grown to believe that feeling insecure and
feeling that you are not good enough is normal and impossible to beat;
therefore you just accept it and set an subconscious rule that you need to and
deserve to feel badly and poorly when you look at yourself. This is where you
need to take few steps back. The thing about low self – esteem is, that is
cannot be cured in one day, or even soon for that matter. The first thing you
need to stop doing is giving yourself and everything around you unrealistic
deadlines.
Accomplishing
high self – esteem will not happen in an instant. It requires hard work and
constant reassurance. When working on achieving high self – esteem, know that
it can never and never and will never be achieved as long as you keep negative
ingredients involved, such as giving up. This is one of the biggest reasons you
look at yourself in such a valueless manner. Yes, it will be hard to get rid
of, especially because “giving up” is partnered with another negative
ingredient named “laziness”. The truth is, you do wist to change the way you
look at and feel about yourself, but you have grown to become too lazy to do
anything about it. Why? For the factual reason that you find it easier to stay
in the place and position that you are already in. it does not matter if it is
an extremely negative position or place. What does matter and needs to be
realized is that you have chosen to stay in negativity for so long, that you
have become so comfortable with the fact that you do not like yourself. You may
not have noticed, as most the other low self – esteemed don’t, that you now
crave and need to feel sorry for yourself and subconsiciously enjoy victimizing
yourself and grabbing negative attention from others. This is exactly why
terminating low self – esteem is difficult. You handed over all of your power
and strength to it, allowing it to dictate your being and the way you handle
life.
Another
essential thing you must stop doing is comparing yourself to others. You are
you and not anyone else, and never will be anyone else. People are different
and are created with different packages and talents. You are different and
unique and hold talents and qualities that no one else has and will never have,
and that is something to take pride in and love about you. Concentrate on
learning and knowing that you are special, loveable, capable and very much
acceptable. It all begins with accepting yourself, and you are the most
important person to receive acceptance from. Once you have received official
approval and acceptance from yourself, everything and everyone else around you
will do the same and follow.
Living
a life of great confidence can be challenging, but can be done. You might have
even tried giving your self – esteem a boost, but were later disappointed to
see that it did not quite work out the way you imagined. If this is true, do
not run away just yet! This behavior is very common. Like every other person,
you have probably adapted and grown to believe that feeling insecure and
feeling that you are not good enough is normal and impossible to beat;
therefore you just accept it and set an subconscious rule that you need to and
deserve to feel badly and poorly when you look at yourself. This is where you
need to take a few steps back. The thing about low self – esteem is, that is
cannot be cured in one day, or even soon for that matter. The first thing you
need to stop doing is giving yourself and everything.
When
you do come to times where you are not satisfied with the way you look or the
things you have done, shift you mind and soul over to a positive side, pointing
out the thing you are happy with and feel great about, and always reward
yourself for it. Treat yourself to something special that you will enjoy and
fell fabulous about, and remind yourself that tomorrow is another day, which
comes with brand new opportunities and more chances. Lastly, make your presence
appear only around other positive people and other positive energies.
Maintaining a healthy and high self – esteem will be successful if you continue
to motivate and encourage it. So get up, stop feeling sorry for yourself and
start changing the way you feel about and look at yourself. You deserve to
happy and confident, because you are a fantastic and very special individual.
You can do it and you know you can!
