You fall in love with him in the city, he moves out of town. Whether you met him at a military installation, and suddenly one of you is shipped. Or maybe you connected with a wonderful man while on vacation, but who can afford to fly to Jamaica? Every weekend It is an understandably as you and decide to keep the relationship going your beloved hard bet while you apart. Difficult but not impossible.
Loving Across the Miles
I must admit that I have had. A few such relationships and not all of them were good But I have found that there are keys to keeping the romance alive, if both parties are willing and determined to make it work. Those experiences by Keep in mind that the length of time that you had to know before you were separated will have much to do with how successful your long distance romance will have To the person
Determine your relationship
One of the first things you should do with your long distance sweetie is to agree on what the relationship is good going forward line: If you are doing just friends? Closely related when it comes out? Whether this has the makings of a real and solid love relationship? Determining the boundaries is of paramount importance, because if it is difficult, it will help ground the two of you if you know the limits of your relationship. It will also help avoid heartache later because you both know where you stand.
Be Honest
This is very important, and I mean not only the disclosure of the superficial things (like where he was when you called and he did not answer). You should be prepared to discuss, too, like your sex life. More sensitive issues If this relationship is to really keep his ground, open and honest talk about your sexual needs is one of the biggest keys to success. In general, to communicate with your partner about your sex life open will allow you to find out if the other person is really committed to you both physically and personally. It is to be cut, not an easy subject, but it can be very revealing in terns of how the two are willing to make for the sake of your love known. (The only exception I would make this regard the military: If you or your love is abroad, from fighting in a war, this kind of honesty too much to handle and would be best left to discuss a more appropriate time. Encouragement would the order of the day or until he returns home.)
Exercise Patience
Boy, this is a tough one! I personally am not a patient woman, and one of the [itfalls for me in long-distance relationships is waiting. I suggest that you find things to do here at home to take your time. If your career or your children do not you busy enough to keep getting involved in voluntary work or maybe go back to school. The key is to prevent the weight of your long distance calls with whining or unrealistic demands, just because you're bored or missing the other person.
Below are some tips to keep the rocks, and your relationship on solid ground
Time to relax:
For couples with children, it is important that you are free to raise these parts. Take turns preparing meals, they run around and picking up after them. This allows the other partner to have some time. Make a schedule that blocks time for both daily tasks and leisure. Taking time to relax will help you more positive interaction with your children, and to have each other.
Active listening:
Its exercise can help you and your partner to understand and learn what the other feels, so you get a chance to start solving problems in your relationship. Find a quiet private place in your home. Take turns telling each other what you want to say. When one of you hass spoken the other partner must repeat what was said, not what they think they heard back. Repeat feelings of your partner until you get it right. This saves misunderstandings, confusion and much shouting!
Silent Connection:
Spend a minute a day facing each other and your hands to your partner. Look into each other's eyes. Then tell him or her something you like about him or her. Nonverbal intimacy, even for a short time, could short-circuit the day frustration and put you in a positive mental state. The verbal reinforcement helps ensure you connect at all levels.
