if you are benefiting and your partner is benefiting, you are in a parasitic relationship (you are in a mutualistic relationship).
• if you are benefiting and your partner is being harmed, you are in a parasitic relationship (you are the parasite and your partner is the host).
• if you are being harmed and your partner is benefiting, you are in a parasitic relationship (your partner is the parasite and you are the host).
• If you are being harmed and your partner is being harmed, you are not is a parasitic relationship (you are in a mutually destructive, or abusive, relationship). Have a genuine, heart-to-heart conversation with your partner. One of the most common cause of conflicts in relationships is misunderstanding. Perhaps you have misinterpreted the facts. Perhaps some things have eluded your thinking about the relationship. Perhaps your partner is well-intentioned, but made mistake unaware. If you are in a parasite relationship, take action to correct this.
• After talking your partner, resolve any misunderstanding, forgive, and discuss ways you can both improve the relationship, so that neither partner is harmed anymore.
• Seek counseling and support from others if needed.
• If the relationship cannot be repaired, look for a way out respectfully and peacefully.
Tips
• Ask yourself avery morning before getting out of bed…Am I happy here? What exactly am I doing here? What is that I want out of this relationship that I’m not getting right now? why am I here?
• If you are the host in a parasitic relationship, be brave enough to seek a way out; conversely, if you are the parasite, repent and learn to give more and take less from your partner.
• Understanding that it is better to give than to receive.
• Learn to forgive.
• Seek counseling
Warning!
Parasitic relationship are harmful by definition. Do not let it continue as is.
